Message to new
parents.
Becoming a parent is always a miracle, whether it is your
first baby or fourth. Just yesterday this little person was
not even around and today you love him or her more than all
these people you’ve known for years!
As a pediatrician I am privileged to witness the joys and
struggles of new parents every day and I would like to share
some of my thoughts and observations. So, this is what your
pediatrician would like you to do:
Commit.
Parenting is a very hard job, but you signed up for it.
Sleepless nights, ruined vacation plans, not
being able
to wear your favorite pair of jeans anymore because they
don’t fit, and your favorite dress because there is spit-up
all over it. All of it comes with the package. Raising
children is a lifetime act of pure selflessness and
devotion. Give all you have and don’t expect anything in
return. The only goal is to raise happy, well adjusted,
confident, generous and sensitive children.
Take good care of yourself.
You have to be around for many years (colleges are very
expensive now and so are the weddings) Take your vitamins,
eat healthy, and make sure you are getting enough sleep,
fresh air, and exercise.
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Reach out. This is not a time to be a superwoman or
superman. Enlist parents, in-laws, older kids, all
relatives, neighbors, and friends. There are very few things
you cannot delegate- sleeping, eating, breastfeeding and
going to the bathroom- and these are very important things.
Everything else, such as cleaning, cooking, shopping, can be
done by your voluntary or hired help. Your next door 14
year old will be happy to get $5 an hour to help you with a
load of laundry or baby bath. Surround yourself with
positive people-believers. It’s not the time to continue
toxic or abusive relationships. Your baby- whether inside
you or outside is very sensitive, very in tune with your
mood and with the mood of the people around. Try to avoid
tensions, resolve conflicts in a positive, constructive,
honest manner.
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Come prepared.
It is simply not true that babies come without instructions.
American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) provides excellent
instructions for parents. They publish series of books on
how to take care of kids. “Taking care of your baby birth to
five years” is the first of them.
Useful internet sites: www.AAP.org,
www.CDC.gov,
www.babycenter.com,
www.parentstages.com .
Using educational materials will help you make important
decisions for your baby such as whether or not to store cord
blood, use extended genetic screen in place of the regular
one and so on.
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Enjoy.
Having kids is an excuse to have fun in life which we as
adults won’t have otherwise. With our kids we play, laugh
and we feel like kids again. So relax, trust your instincts
and common sense and have fun. Make sure you capture all
these precious moments on tapes, film (or rather digital
card), in your diary because they grow all too fast.
Benefits of breastfeeding
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Breast
milk
contains a lot of immunoglobulins which provide
protection against viruses and bacteria, which means a baby
with stronger immune system.
Studies show that breastfed babies grow up with less chronic
conditions caused by problems with immune system, such as
asthma and eczema.
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Breast feeding saves you a lot of money. A 2 month
old requires about 24 oz of milk a day. If you buy Similac,
the cost for one week will be about $45!!! Double that for
your 6 month old!!!
·
Breast feeding is very convenient- it saves you a lot of
time. Warm, sterile food is right there when you need
it: no running to the store, warming up, measuring, mixing,
washing bottles, and carrying all your supplies around.
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It’s
great for the delicate immature digestive system of
your infant, causing less food allergies,
intolerances and diseases of gastrointestinal tract in
infancy and later on due to the fact that it contains
healthy intestinal flora similar to the good bacteria adults
get from yogurt.
·
It
helps you burn up to 500-600 calories a day, lose the
postpartum weight and quickly get back in shape and
into those favorite jeans.
·
People who have been breastfed have fewer incidences of
obesity and eating disorders like anorexia and
bulimia because they know how to regulate their intake and
their needs early on. They are more receptive to different
kinds of foods later on because they taste milk which is
different all the time depending on what the mother eats.
Bottle-fed babies are more prone to prefer bland foods and
they become picky eaters, because their formula tastes the
same.
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It
creates a unique bond between the two of you, giving
you the ultimate sense of accomplishment, the sense that you
are giving your baby the gift nobody else can give. Close
skin-to-skin (Kangaroo) contact is the key to good emotional
and mental development of your baby. It teaches a lesson of
trust, confidence and love.
Physiologic conditions of the newborn.
Newborn's Normal Appearance.
Even after your child's
health care provider assures you that your baby is normal,
you may find that he or she looks a bit odd. Your baby does
not have the perfect body you have seen in baby books. Be
patient. Most newborns have some peculiar characteristics.
Fortunately they are temporary. Your baby will begin to look
normal by 1 to 2 weeks of age.
This discussion of these
newborn characteristics is arranged by parts of the body. A
few minor congenital defects that are harmless but permanent
are also included. Call your health care provider if you
have questions about your baby's appearance that this list
does not address.
Skin
1. Teleangiectasia-
dilated blood vessels on the eyelids, nape of the neck, on
the bridge of the nose etc. They are
called “stork bites” or “angel kisses” depending on their
location, look like birth marks and fade with time.
2. Erythema
of the newborn-blotchy rash which consists of round red
spots with light center.
3.
Newborn acne-looks
like regular acne, happens because of imbalance of oily
glands in the skin. Does not
require any special care.
Head
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Molding
Molding refers to the long, narrow,
cone-shaped head that results from passage through a
tight birth canal. This compression of the head can
temporarily hide the fontanel. The head returns to a
normal shape in a few days.
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Caput
This refers to swelling on top of the
head or throughout the scalp due to fluid squeezed into
the scalp during the birth process. Caput is present at
birth and clears in a few days.
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Cephalohematoma
This is a collection of blood on the
outer surface of the skull. It is due to friction
between the infant's skull and the mother's pelvic bones
during the birth process. The lump is usually confined
to one side of the head. It first appears on the second
day of life and may grow larger for up to 5 days. It
doesn't resolve completely until the baby is 2 or 3
months of age.
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Anterior fontanel
The "soft spot" is found in the top front
part of the skull. It is diamond-shaped and covered by a
thick fibrous layer. Touching this area is quite safe.
The purpose of the soft spot is to allow rapid growth of
the brain. The spot will normally pulsate with each beat
of the heart. It normally closes with bone when the baby
is between 12 and 18 months of age.
Eyes
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Swollen eyelids
The eyes may be puffy
because of pressure on the face during delivery and if
silver nitrate eye drops or antibiotic ointments are
used. This irritation should clear in 3 days. There can
be discharge because of the blocked tear duct.
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Subconjunctival hemorrhage
A flame-shaped
hemorrhage on the white of the eye (sclera) is not
uncommon. It's harmless and due to birth trauma. The
blood is reabsorbed in 2 to 3 weeks.
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Inability to focus the gaze.
The eyes can roll in all directions,
which looks spooky, but is not a reason for concern. By
6-8 weeks your baby will be able to focus better.
EARS
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Folded over
The ears of newborns are commonly soft
and floppy. Sometimes one of the edges is folded over.
The outer ear will assume normal shape as the cartilage
hardens over the first few weeks.
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Ear pits
About 1% of normal children has a small
pit or dimple in front of the outer ear. This minor
congenital defect is not important unless it becomes
infected.
NOSE, FLATTENED
The nose can become misshapen
during the birth process. It may be flattened or pushed to
one side. It will look normal by 1 week of age.
MOUTH
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Sucking callus (or blister)
A sucking callus occurs in the center of
the upper lip from constant friction at this point
during bottle- or breast-feeding
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Tongue-tie
The
normal tongue in newborns has a short tight band that
connects it to the floor of the mouth. This band
normally stretches with time, movement, and growth.
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Epithelial pearls
Little white-colored cysts can occur
along the gum line or on the hard palate. These are a
result of blockage of normal mucous glands. They
disappear after 1 to 2 months.
BREAST ENGORGEMENT
Swollen breasts are present
during the first week of life in many female and male
babies. They are caused by the passage of female hormones
across the mother's placenta. Sometimes the breast will leak
a few drops of milk, and this is normal. Breasts are
generally swollen for 2 to 4 weeks, but they may stay
swollen longer in breast-fed and female babies. One breast
may lose its swelling before the other one by a month or
more. Never squeeze the breast. Call health care provider if
a swollen breast develops any redness, streaking, or
tenderness.
GENITALS, GIRLS
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Swollen labia
The labia minora can be quite swollen in
newborn girls because of the passage of female hormones
across the placenta. The swelling will resolve in 2 to 4
weeks.
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Hymenal tags
The hymen can also be swollen due to
maternal estrogen and have smooth 1/2-inch projections
of pink tissue. These normal tags occur in 10% of
newborn girls and slowly shrink over 2 to 4 weeks.
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Vaginal discharge
As the maternal hormones decline in the
baby's blood, a clear or white discharge can flow from
the vagina during the latter part of the first week of
life. Occasionally the discharge will become pink or
blood-tinged (false menstruation). This normal discharge
should not last more than 2 to 3 days.
GENITALS, BOYS
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Hydrocele- Painless collection of clear
fluid in the scrotum.It
is common and harmless and may take 6 to 12 months to
clear completely. If the swelling frequently changes
size, a hernia may also be present and you should call
your health care provider during office hours for an
appointment.
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Undescended testicle.
The testicle is not in the scrotum in
about 4% of full-term newborn boys. Many of these
testicles gradually descend into the normal position
during the following months. In 1-year-old boys only
0.7% of all testicles are undescended; these need to be
brought down surgically.
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Tight foreskin.
Most uncircumcised infant boys have a
tight foreskin that doesn't allow you to see the head of
the penis. This is normal and the foreskin should not be
retracted. It is called
physiologic phimosis. Until your uncircumcised boy turns
6-8 years old, don’t attempt to pull the foreskin.
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Erections
Erections occur commonly in a newborn
boy, as they do at all ages. They are usually triggered
by a full bladder, so watch out when you change a
diaper. Erections demonstrate that the nerves to the
penis are normal.
BONES
AND JOINTS
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Tight hips
Your child's health care provider will
test how far your child's legs can be spread apart to be
certain the hips are not too tight. Upper legs bent
outward until they are horizontal is called "90 degrees
of spread." (Less than 50% of normal newborn hips permit
this much spreading.) As long as the upper legs can be
bent outward to 60 degrees and are the same on each
side, they are fine. The most common cause of a tight
hip is a dislocation.
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Tibial torsion
The lower legs
(tibia) normally curve in because of the cross-legged
posture your baby was confined to while in the womb.
HAIR
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Scalp hair
Most hair at birth is dark. This hair is
temporary and begins to shed by 1 month of age. Some
babies lose it gradually while the permanent hair is
coming in; others lose it rapidly and temporarily become
bald. The permanent hair will appear by 6 months. It may
be an entirely different color from the newborn hair.
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Body hair (lanugo)
Lanugo is the
fine downy hair that is sometimes present on the back
and shoulders. It is more common in premature infants.
It is rubbed off with normal friction by 2 to 4 weeks of
age. Many newborns have soft nails that easily bend and
curve. However, they are not truly ingrown because they
don't curve into the flesh.
Copyright © 2008 (Dr.
Stein,
Pediatric and Adolescent Medicine, PA)
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